rules of engagement

here we list some general guidance on how to talk to/about us as a plural system. the set of questions is mostly adapted from this plural etiquette questionnaire.

how should i refer to you collectively?

we don’t have a ‘singletsona’, so refer to us as you would any group of people. you don’t have to write the (蒜) in the middle of our system name in casual conversation (especially if you’re writing it by hand, dear god). if you like abbreviations, you can also just use 🧄.

as far as plural terminology goes: generally speaking, we go for ‘plural’ over ‘multiple’. we say ‘system’ to mean the whole of allium (蒜) house and ‘collective’ for mord’s median subsystem specifically, but we’re not fussy about what you use.

how should i refer to you individually?

individual members list pronouns and language preferences on their respective pages.

please be mindful not to box us in with our plurality. don’t refer to us collectively when it’s not relevant. we’re only headmates in the context of being related to our fellow system members, and plurans when talking about plurality – otherwise, we’re just people.

also, don’t use the word alter. just like, in general.

who am i most likely to interact with?

mord and joey are cohosts and split the week about 50/50. one day a week is for vince, or majima, or both, depending on what they decide between themselves on any given week.

what should i do if i don't know who's in front?

we do a pretty good job of making that clear, but in case we don’t, you can just ask.

is it okay to ask if i can talk to someone who isn't in front at the moment?

we don’t consider it rude, but it’s often impractical because we keep a pretty tight schedule. feel free to ask us to pass a message along, or try and schedule something in advance. we might be able to make a cofront happen if it’s really urgent, but we make no promises.

if i talk to one of you, will other system members be aware of the conversation?

the only way someone else will hear a conversation when it happens is if they’re in the front room too. memory barriers between individuals are pretty strong as long as we don’t poke at them too much, but they’re not airtight. in particular, if you’re trying to keep gifts a secret, that’s not gonna work.

what should i do when talking to people who don't know you're plural?

if you want to, you’d probably be doing us a favour by explaining plurality to them so we don’t have to. feel free to direct them to this page, if it helps.

can i ask you a question about your plurality that isn’t listed here?

probably! mord in particular considers explaining this sort of thing part of its work with Alt+H. if a point of contact is listed on someone’s page, you can assume they’re happy to be reached there.


if you have questions about plurality in general, check out these resources: